The 婚宴 is arguably more significant than the legal registration or any religious ceremony in the eyes of Chinese society. It serves several critical functions:
Social Announcement: The 婚宴 is the official public announcement of the union. By inviting guests, the families are formally presenting the new couple to their social network (关系 guānxi) and solidifying the new familial bond.
A Show of “Face” (面子 miànzi): The scale, location (e.g., a five-star hotel), and quality of the food at the 婚宴 are a direct reflection of the families' social status, wealth, and generosity. A lavish banquet gives “face” to both the hosts and the guests.
Symbolism and Blessings: Unlike a Western reception focused on dancing and cake, a 婚宴 is centered on the food. There are typically 8 to 12 courses, and each dish is chosen for its symbolic meaning. For example:
Fish (鱼 yú): Sounds like the word for “surplus” or “abundance” (余 yú), wishing the couple a life of plenty.
Whole Chicken (鸡 jī): Symbolizes peace and togetherness, often served with a dragon (lobster) to represent the groom and phoenix (chicken) to represent the bride.
Noodles (面 miàn): Represent longevity.
Sweet Red Bean Soup & Sticky Rice Balls (汤圆 tāngyuán): Symbolize a sweet life and the reunion of family.
Comparison to Western Receptions: A Western wedding reception often involves a sit-down dinner followed by speeches, cake-cutting, and a long period of dancing. A Chinese 婚宴 is almost entirely focused on the feast itself. While there may be short performances or a video, the main event is the progression of dishes. The couple's primary activity is not dancing, but 敬酒 (jìngjiǔ)—going to every single table to toast with the guests as a sign of respect and gratitude.