`点菜 (diǎncài)` is more than a simple transaction; it's a social ritual embedded in Chinese culture.
In contrast to the typical Western dining experience where each person orders their own individual main course, Chinese dining is almost always family-style. The act of `点菜` is therefore a collective one.
The Role of the Host: The person who invited the others (the host, or `请客 - qǐngkè`) is usually expected to do the ordering. It is their responsibility and a way to show generosity and care for their guests. They will try to order a variety of dishes, considering everyone's preferences and dietary restrictions (`忌口 - jìkǒu`).
Showing “Face” (面子 - miànzi): A host gains “face” (social respect) by ordering a generous spread of food—often slightly more than the group can finish. An abundant table signifies wealth, generosity, and respect for the guests. Conversely, not ordering enough can cause the host to lose face.
The Polite Refusal: It is common for a guest, when offered the menu, to politely refuse and insist the host orders (`你点吧! nǐ diǎn ba!`). This is a dance of humility and respect. A savvy guest might suggest one or two dishes they like, but will ultimately defer to the host.
Creating a Balanced Meal: A key skill in `点菜` is ordering a balanced meal. This means not just ordering meat, but also vegetables, a soup, and perhaps a tofu or egg dish. It also involves balancing flavors (spicy, savory, sour) and cooking methods (stir-fried, steamed, braised).